Eden Kink Club

Hosted by Rayne

Who:

Dominants, submissives, switches, poly people, kinksters, dabblers, experimenters, newbies, people who’ve been around forever,  curious parties

Where:

http://www.edenfantasys.com/sex-forum/clubs/eden-kink/

Why:

Which reason would you like first?

Safety – If yer doin’ it wrong, someone could get hurt. So we’re gonna talk about safe ways to engage in the dangerous activities some of us enjoy so much.

Education – We’re not professionals at every single aspect of kink. We could all learn a thing or two from our peers. And the newbies and curious parties could learn a lot! So we’re gonna teach each other.

Camaraderie - Let’s face it. It’s nice having a place to be completely open about our more deviant sexual behaviors with people who understand and accept us regardless of how sordid our affairs.

Fun! – We’ve got some really fun workshops and relevant discussions planned, and we’re inviting some well-known kinksters to speak to the club. And we’d love to hear what kinds of activities you guys would like to see. We’re gonna get together and have a blast as only us kinksters (and curious parties) can!

For clarity’s sake:

<disclaimer: We understand that all of the following words have different meanings to different people, and we invite everyone to express and discuss their opinions on these words. We’re defining them here so everyone is on the same page with the most basic definition of each. If you think something should be changed, please email rayne (at) edenfantasys (dot) com.>

Play session - Usually a private bondage or SM session, but sometimes other types of play sessions qualify.

Scene – A public play session. Usually a public bondage or SM session, but sometimes other types of play sessions qualify.

Dominant – A person of any gender or sexual identity who prefers to be in control of their scene, play session, relationship, what have you. Dominants use many honorifics including, but not limited to, Ma’am, Sir, Madame, Master, Lord, Lady, Daddy, Mommy, Jarl, etc. They can have total control or only control of the play session. They can even be service tops.

Submissive – A person of any gender or sexual identity who prefers to be controlled in their scene, play session, relationship, what have you. Submissive people are referred to by many names including, but not limited to, sub, slave, property, little girl, etc. It’s often said that submissives have total control because they can stop it any time they want by revoking consent. They, too, range in levels of consent from those who only allow their partner to control them in the bedroom to those who have given up total control of their lives to another.

Switch – A person of any gender or sexual identity who will top or submit depending on their desire, or the desires of their play partners.

Poly – There are all sorts of poly relationships with all sorts of dynamics. For the purpose of discussion, we include swingers, open relationships, threesomes, quads, etc. under this heading.

Dabbler – Someone who’s kinky sometimes, or only with certain people, or something of the sort. Maybe you just participate in some light bondage once in a while, or a spanking if the light hits you right. It’s okay when you want it but you don’t always want it. NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT! We just want you to know you’re welcome here, too!

Experimenter – Maybe you like it. Maybe you don’t. You don’t know yet cause you’re still trying things out.

Curious party – You watched CSI a while back and kink sounds… different. What are real kinksters like, anyway? Or it sounds neat! And you’d like to try it. But you’ve got no clue where to start. Come on in. :)

EdenKink: September Wrap-Up

Posted by on Oct 18, 2011 in EdenKink | 0 comments

EdenKink: September Wrap-Up

So we started EdenKink back up again! And September’s meeting was a blast! We had all sorts of kinksters stop by. Some I’ve known a while. Some I’d never met before! We were all just kinda wondering… WHERE WERE YOU?! Last month’s meeting was lead by lunaKM, the creator of SubmissiveGuide.com, a place for newbies and old salt submissives alike to gather and chatter about what submission is to them! luna told us about how she met KM and their dynamic. She discussed what her day to day life is like and her place in...

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EdenKink: September – Guest Speaker

Posted by on Sep 1, 2011 in EdenKink | 0 comments

EdenKink: September – Guest Speaker

Hi you guys! As  you’ve probably heard, VieuxCarre was just way too busy with her new school schedule and such, and had to step down as manager of EdenKink. We were sorry to see her go. She did such a great job with EdenKink and we’d like to thank her for her service. We hope she’s doing well. But the show must go on! And so I’ve taken the helm. Some of you know me from InsatiableDesire.com. Others read me on EdenCafe or SexIs. But for those of you who have no idea who I am, I’ll tell you a little about me so...

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EdenKink: June Wrap-up

Posted by on Jun 30, 2011 in EdenKink | 0 comments

EdenKink: June Wrap-up

If you missed this month’s Eden Kink meeting, you missed out on some excellent discussion! Our topic was “Misconceptions in BDSM”, and boy did we have a lot of misconceptions thrown out there. As a community, we debunked many common myths and half truths about kink and the BDSM community. Everyone who participated got to learn something new, and I even walked away with some new knowledge. It just goes to show, what you may think is true about something could be completely bogus. Stay tuned for next month’s meeting!...

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EdenKink: June

Posted by on Jun 10, 2011 in EdenKink | 1 comment

EdenKink: June

There is a lot of fun to be had in the BDSM world with the variety of play that can be explored. It’s not easy, though, for those who choose to get involved either publicly or privately. The world is full of stereotypes and misconceptions about groups of people based on gender, race, and other things that affect daily life. BDSM is not excluded from these things, and these stereotypes and misconceptions can sometimes be harmful to the community as a whole, and discourage people from venturing into the world of BDSM. This month, Eden Kink...

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Eden Kink: May Wrap Up

Posted by on Jun 1, 2011 in EdenKink | 0 comments

Eden Kink: May Wrap Up

This month during Eden Kink, we discussed how to make a duct tape flogger. Along with discussing how to make a duct tape flogger, providing visuals, proper techniques on flogging were discussed. There were personal stories passed back and forth about experiences with flogging, and questions asked about how to properly go about flogging. Along with the serious topic of proper flogger use, there was also chatter and joking about how I was in trouble with some of the participants now that I had shown their partners how to make homemade things to...

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Consent

Posted by on May 30, 2011 in EdenKink | 0 comments

Consent

Consent is the most important BDSM tool that you can carry on your belt. It’s what sets kink apart from abuse, and makes WIITWD (what it is that we do) fun. Consent creates acts of love rather than hate, makes an ethical slut, and plays a major role in the legality of our actions. It can be given out loud or on paper, for a day or for a year, for a kiss or for a flogging. For those new or old to the world of BDSM, there are many factors to consider in requesting and providing consent for any scene. Whether two people are having vanilla...

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Duct Tape Flogger DIY

Posted by on May 13, 2011 in EdenKink | 0 comments

Duct Tape Flogger DIY

April showers bring May floggers! Well, in the kinky world they do anyway. After discussing how to go about exploring your kink last month, we’re going to have a bit of an interactive discussion this month. What are we doing? Well, you’ll have to go to the forums to find out, but I will tell you that we’ll be having fun and you’ll be proud of yourself after this meeting. Our discussion this month will be on the use of BDSM toys on a partner, primarily floggers, and how to properly use them. We will also discuss how to go about...

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Eden Kink: April Wrap Up

Posted by on Apr 26, 2011 in EdenKink | 0 comments

Eden Kink: April Wrap Up

What was discussed:   The April Meeting of Eden Kink consisted of group members discussing where they first explored their kinky side and how they went about doing so. This led into a discussion of the different methods of exploring kink such as publicly at local kink clubs, privately at home or in the bedroom, and even through books on the subject. Eventually the group members began discussing personal experiences and relating to one another through different scenarios. Topics suggested: There was a topic suggested for doing a DIY...

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Eden Kink: April

Posted by on Apr 15, 2011 in EdenKink | 0 comments

Eden Kink: April

After a month off Eden Kink is back and ready for action!  This month’s topic is going to focus on where to go for your first kinkster experience.  There are many opportunities to explore kink whether it be in the bedroom on your own or going out in public to clubs and learning from others.  We are going to discuss personal experiences, failures, advice, and even ask each other questions about continued education.  Kink is something that we continue to learn more about each and every day and there is not one person who knows everything...

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Wrap Up – Eden Kink February

Posted by on Apr 1, 2011 in EdenKink | 0 comments

Wrap Up – Eden Kink February

What was discussed: The first meeting of Eden Kink was a basic introductory session where we defined the roles of submissive, dominant, switch, top, bottom, and kinkster. We also delved into how some of us live the role we identify with on a more regular basis than others and how we live those roles. Those who joined in the discussion asked basic questions and proposed some topics they would like to discuss in future meetings. Topics suggested: Where to go for your first kinkster experience Misconceptions in...

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