Eden Clubs and Events http://www.edencommunityclubs.com Community Clubs, Events and Workshops from EdenFantasys Fri, 21 Oct 2011 19:00:55 +0000 en hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 EdenMilestones: Miss Nessa hit 100 reviews! http://www.edencommunityclubs.com/edenmilestones-miss-nessa-hit-100-reviews/ http://www.edencommunityclubs.com/edenmilestones-miss-nessa-hit-100-reviews/#comments Fri, 21 Oct 2011 19:00:55 +0000 Rayne http://www.edencommunityclubs.com/?p=2483 100-jaar

Miss Nessa joined our little community just over a year ago, and in that time has made herself quite a presence; participating actively in the video review program, with 58 videos so far! She’s also jumped into the mentor program, and writes for the Eden Cafe on occasion. “My interests in toys have changed a [...]]]>
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Miss Nessa joined our little community just over a year ago, and in that time has made herself quite a presence; participating actively in the video review program, with 58 videos so far! She’s also jumped into the mentor program, and writes for the Eden Cafe on occasion.

“My interests in toys have changed a lot. I was never was into toys as of a few years ago, but I started to become more interested with sex toys in hopes it will help me figure out my own sexuality, and not to mention spicing up my sex life. I use to think only people who had sex addictions used them, but my ignorance was quickly corrected. I’ve pulled towards things I did not even think I would like, such as BDSM and costume play. My number one toy I’ve reviewed would have to me my MiMi, and my RO-120mm bullet by Rocks Off. I do not know what I would do without them, or how I’ve gotten this far without them. My favorites have not changed after reviewing them, but I can say I’ve added a few such as my Rainbow Bliss, and my Siri. As my obsession with EdenFantasys grows. I can not wait to try more costumes, lingerie, and clitoral vibrators. I somewhat have an obsession with them. I hope that we will soon get higher quality, but affordable clit vibes, and more plus size lingerie.”

Congratulations again, Miss Nessa, and I’ll see you at 200! Make sure you stop by and congratulate her!

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Holiday Party: Halloween! http://www.edencommunityclubs.com/holiday-party-halloween/ http://www.edencommunityclubs.com/holiday-party-halloween/#comments Fri, 21 Oct 2011 17:00:46 +0000 Sam http://www.edencommunityclubs.com/?p=2480 Jack-o'-Lantern_2003-10-31

Hey everybody! In case you haven’t already heard, every now and then we get together and have parties on the forums! They’re not always set in stone, sometimes they have a specific holiday they relate to, others are just for fun. Either way it’s always a great time, and the best part is that you [...]]]>
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Hey everybody! In case you haven’t already heard, every now and then we get together and have parties on the forums! They’re not always set in stone, sometimes they have a specific holiday they relate to, others are just for fun. Either way it’s always a great time, and the best part is that you guys get to help plan them! The first Tuesday of every month you can join the Holiday Party Planning meetings and help shape the next party.

But we’re really here to talk about the Halloween party that’s coming up! There isn’t too much to share about it other than it’ll be taking place on our forums on Monday, October 24th at 7pm EST. It officially runs until 9, but there’s nothing that says you can’t stick around and hang out with your friends all night long if you wanted to. Heck, some people even get there a bit early! It’s mostly a chance to get to chill with your Eden friends, but there’s also a chance for prizes, and of course you’ll get to learn some super fun trivia as well.

Make sure you clear your calendar for the Halloween party! Happening right here on Monday, October 24th at 7pm Eastern. Be there!

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EdenKink: October – Costume Fetishes http://www.edencommunityclubs.com/edenkink-october-costume-fetishes/ http://www.edencommunityclubs.com/edenkink-october-costume-fetishes/#comments Fri, 21 Oct 2011 15:00:09 +0000 Rayne http://www.edencommunityclubs.com/?p=2477 eden-kink-200

It’s that time again! Time for another EdenKink meeting! But just what is EdenKink? EdenKink is a place for us kinksters who would like to to get together and have a conversation of all the many different ways there is to do this thing that we do. All are welcome no matter which side of [...]]]>
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It’s that time again! Time for another EdenKink meeting! But just what is EdenKink?

EdenKink is a place for us kinksters who would like to to get together and have a conversation of all the many different ways there is to do this thing that we do. All are welcome no matter which side of the kinky scale you’re on.

We had loads of fun at the EdenKink meeting last month. lunaKM from SubGuide stopped by and spoke to us about her relationship and her dynamic, and we talked about our own relationships and dynamics.

This month we’re going to talk about costume fetishes! Maybe you’re a sucker for a man in uniform? Or maybe those school uniforms push you over the edge? Perhaps you’ve got a thing for a saucy wench? Come talk about it!

But wait! There’s more!

We’re giving away a $50 gift card to EdenFantasys to one lucky club member! At the end of the meeting, I’ll throw the number of posts in random.org and the person whose post number comes up will be the winner!

But you gotta be in it to win it! Come ready to talk about your costume fetish, help us decide what to talk about next month and have a lot of fun. Oh … and maybe win something, too. Thursday, October 27th at 8pm ET/7pm CT on the EdenFantasys forum.

Can’t wait to see you there!

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the 1st rule is, there are no rules.
the 2nd rule is, never follow the rules.
the 3rd rule is, go fuck yourself.

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EdenLit: October Wrap-up http://www.edencommunityclubs.com/edenlit-october-wrap-up/ http://www.edencommunityclubs.com/edenlit-october-wrap-up/#comments Thu, 20 Oct 2011 17:00:33 +0000 Airen http://www.edencommunityclubs.com/?p=2467 eden-lit-200

Happy Halloween from the Eden Lit Writers Club! What is the club about? Well, I’m gad you asked. The Eden Lit Writers Club is for writers who simply love to write. We are poets, essayists, erotica writers, speakers and readers. Yes, we welcome any and all readers, afterall what is the point of writing if [...]]]>
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Happy Halloween from the Eden Lit Writers Club!

What is the club about? Well, I’m gad you asked. The Eden Lit Writers Club is for writers who simply love to write. We are poets, essayists, erotica writers, speakers and readers. Yes, we welcome any and all readers, afterall what is the point of writing if no one is gonna read it?

Is there a membership ritual that must be performed before you can call yourself an Eden Lit member? Heck no! Just write us a little something, preferably 300 words or more (unless you are an avid poet…300 words might be too unweildy for the average poem!) and send it on in to Rayne (Rayne at edenfantasys.com). Simple as that. If you are kind enough to allow us to post your original, previously unpublished work we will send you a $10 GC for each piece submitted up to 3 per month. You are welcome to host your work on your own blog and get a link posted on the Eden Blog if you give rayne a sort of teaser about your piece. Just be sure to get the work in by the deadline which is usually 2 weeks before the scheduled meeting.

Ofcourse if you just wanna read the pieces and give us some feedback then join us at the meeting and let us know what you think.

Speaking of meetings, our last meeting was a great success. We discussed all the wonderful work our members did. “The Wolf” by Lady Dream Kitten had us all squirming with it’s vivid imagery and stark eroticism. I related how “Bias and Prejudice” actually came to me in a dream. We ached with Katheryn Hale after reading her “Food Fight” which she told us was about eating disorder. We also realized that most of us have a love of the Discovery Channel and other learning type programming stations. Katheryn Hale told us how she became attracted to lycanthropy in her story, “Lunatic”. It seems the Discovery Channel is owed some thanks!

Our deadline for submissions to the Book Project is looming fast. October 31, 2011 will be the last day to turn in any material for consideration for the book. Send any work directly to me (airenwolf at yahoo.com) that you’d like to see considered. All other Monthly submission should be sent to Rayne before the October 24, 2011 deadline.

What are the topics for the November meeting? This Month should see some very thoughtful pieces:

  • Gratitude- This can be what you are grateful for or what you believe people should be grateful for. All about gratitude, tell us your take on the topic.
  • Pilgrimage- Have you experienced a pilgrimage? Do you like and want to share the history of the pilgrimage? This topic is one of discovery.
  • Open Topic- Our perenial favorite the open topic. Writing for the sake of writing.

Our next meeting will be on November 07, 2011 at 7pm EST. We look forwrd to seeing you there!

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“Who Am I?” http://www.edencommunityclubs.com/who-am-i/ http://www.edencommunityclubs.com/who-am-i/#comments Thu, 20 Oct 2011 15:00:29 +0000 Hot N Sexy TexasMama http://www.edencommunityclubs.com/?p=2454 who-am-i

In 1998, Jackie Chan starred in a comedy movie titled “Who am I?” Although I’m not a martial arts fan, I watched the movie and laughed so hard that tears came to my eyes sometimes. Some of my favorite quotes from the movie are: Woman: “Everybody wants to know who you are.” Chan: So do [...]]]>
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In 1998, Jackie Chan starred in a comedy movie titled “Who am I?” Although I’m not a martial arts fan, I watched the movie and laughed so hard that tears came to my eyes sometimes. Some of my favorite quotes from the movie are:

Woman: “Everybody wants to know who you are.”
Chan: So do I.

In another scene Chan says, “You want to know who I am? I want to know who I am”.

Finally Chan is asked what he wants and he replies, “I want my life back.”

I didn’t realize it at the time – but I was connecting with the story because I too was searching for my identity as a woman, a Christian, a wife and so much more. It seems that just as Jackie Chan had wandered from place to place to find his identity, I too was wandering and trying to figure out who I am.

You see, for years, my mother had always compared me to other people. If I accomplished something, I didn’t do it as well as my best friend Barbara. Once while watching Christian tv, my mother watched the teen Evie singing and sighed, “I wish I had a Christian daughter like that.”

As I left home and got married, I still did not know who I was and had no idea how to develop an identity of just who I was. I compared myself to other women. If Godly women wore long dresses, then I would wear long dresses. If they read the Bible every day, then I would do it too.

I always found myself trying to imitate someone else – preferably someone who would be acceptable to others.

Before I ever saw Chan’s movie, I remember going out for dessert one night with my husband. We had been going through a very rough time in our marriage and were coming out the other side and he asked me, “What did you think marriage would be like?” When I shook my head in confusion, he asked me “Well, from what you saw on tv, what did you think marriage would be like?”

Aha – I could answer that question because I was used to comparing myself to others. I thought of all my favorite tv shows and the women I respected and replied, “I always wanted to be like Olivia Walton or Ma Ingalls because they were such good wives and mothers and never fought with their husbands or lost their tempers and kept a good house. Instead, I’m Lucille Ball from ‘I Love Lucy’ and I hate it.”

For years, I carried those words around with me as I continued to compare myself to others.

Its only been recently that I’ve become able to understand that I don’t have to compare myself to others. I don’t have to be like Person X, Y or Z.

God made me a unique individual with talents and gifts and interests that were personalized for me. He doesn’t ask me to measure up to someone else. He doesn’t tell me I have to knit or crochet or even garden because other women I respect do it. He simply asks me to do the things He lays on my heart – whether it is in regards to my homemaking – my friendships or even my marriage. By learning to accept who I am and my uniqueness, I have opened the door to having a healthier and happier life. My husband and I get along so much better now. I can respect my children and their individuality easier.

Jackie Chan’s story is different from mine. He had memories that helped him find out who he was. As he used the skills he’d hidden in his subconsciousness, he learned more about who he was. In some ways, I think he had it easier.

For me? I had to develop new memories because I had to write over the old memories of comparing myself with others. I had to tell myself the truth because I had never known it before.

I’m so happy that with God’s help, I have found myself. I am a unique woman married to a unique man and we have a unique marriage. We are truly God’s gift to each other.

If you have been compared to others all your life, I encourage you to go on a pilgrimage to “find yourself”. It is so freeing to finally accept who you are.

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Hiding Sex Toys http://www.edencommunityclubs.com/hiding-sex-toys/ http://www.edencommunityclubs.com/hiding-sex-toys/#comments Wed, 19 Oct 2011 19:00:35 +0000 Leila http://www.edencommunityclubs.com/?p=2464 Capture

Fawn is anxious that her parents are going to find her sex toys when she moves into the dorms in the fall. Leila puts her mind to ease and offers a couple suggestions. You can find some storage options here!]]>
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Fawn is anxious that her parents are going to find her sex toys when she moves into the dorms in the fall. Leila puts her mind to ease and offers a couple suggestions. You can find some storage options here!

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Reviewers Spotlight: Illusional and Sir Interview http://www.edencommunityclubs.com/reviewers-spotlight-illusional-and-sir-interview/ http://www.edencommunityclubs.com/reviewers-spotlight-illusional-and-sir-interview/#comments Wed, 19 Oct 2011 17:00:37 +0000 Sam http://www.edencommunityclubs.com/?p=2460 Reviewers-Spotlight-Club-200

Hey everybody, if you haven’t heard about our Reviewers Spotlight, I’d like to tell you about it really quick. Basically, once a month we have a few long standing reviewers in our community join us for a Q&A, live on the forums. This month we grilled Illusional and Sir! They both had some great questions asked [...]]]>
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Hey everybody, if you haven’t heard about our Reviewers Spotlight, I’d like to tell you about it really quick. Basically, once a month we have a few long standing reviewers in our community join us for a Q&A, live on the forums. This month we grilled Illusional and Sir! They both had some great questions asked of them, and they both had some great answers to respond with.

Illusional says “… my favorite toy? Right now.. Krystal Dolphin or my Galaxy Saturn. Both get me off quick and my schedule is so hectic I don’t get to have lengthy solo sessions. 

My free time? I like to write and do Nia yoga. Also I cosplay A LOT 

Favorite food? Blueberry pancakes or shrimp alfredo. Hands down. 

In five years? [I see myself] Working in a spa, or maybe massaging a celebrity. Maybe working with children with disabilities. Happy and in love!”

Sir says “To answer your questions: My favorite toy right now is my viper tongue. Not really a toy, but that thing’s damn sexy. Mm. In my free time, I generally see my slave now. She’s under training at the moment. 

Favorite thing to eat: anything a person cooks for me. I cannot help but love food that a person cooks for me. The slave makes me brownies a lot, I love them. She also made me pasta last weekend. 

In five years, I will have a job and probably be out of Florida. I will be a full-time professor at that point. “

These spotlights meet on the first Thursday of each month at 8pm Eastern, and you should definitely be there. You can read through the last one right here, and make sure to join us at the next one on Thursday, November 3rd at 8pm EST!

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Lessons Learned from My Two Mothers http://www.edencommunityclubs.com/lessons-learned-from-my-two-mothers/ http://www.edencommunityclubs.com/lessons-learned-from-my-two-mothers/#comments Wed, 19 Oct 2011 15:00:30 +0000 Hot N Sexy TexasMama http://www.edencommunityclubs.com/?p=2451 i_love_my_mother_in_law_t_shirt-p235970216993610113zval7_400

With Thanksgiving approaching soon, I’ve been thinking about the things I’m grateful for and I often find myself reflecting on the lessons I’ve learned from my two mothers. Well, one mother and one “mother-in-love” as I called her because she was so special to me. I am one of those fortunate women who had an [...]]]>
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With Thanksgiving approaching soon, I’ve been thinking about the things I’m grateful for and I often find myself reflecting on the lessons I’ve learned from my two mothers. Well, one mother and one “mother-in-love” as I called her because she was so special to me. I am one of those fortunate women who had an awesome mother-in-law.

My mom and dad adopted me when I was a year old and I was the only child they had. Because I was adopted, my mother felt like she was raising another woman’s child and she needed to raise me to be “perfect”. Unfortunately, this affected so many areas of my life. No matter what I did, it was never good enough to please her. I grew up with the feeling that love had to be “earned” and that if I did something wrong, that love was removed from me. Basically, I learned that I could not be myself because that might displease others and that I needed to mold my life around what others wanted for me.

My “mother-in-love” adopted me into her heart when I was 18 and dated her son. In many ways, she could not understand me at times and would get frustrated because I was “spleeny” in her eyes. But I never knew of this until years later, well after I was secure in our relationship together. Once I became part of her family, she showed me unconditional love. I did not have to earn it – I simply received it.

With my mother, whenever we would talk, the focus had to be on her and her needs and her wants and if the focus switched to me whenever we were in the presence of others, she did her best to switch the focus back to herself. My “mother-in-love” focused on me when we were together. She always wanted to know how I was doing and what my interests were. Even though we were so unalike in our hobbies and skills, she encouraged me the best she could and praised me for every success I had along the way as I grew as a person.

I always knew better than to tell my mother anything about myself or anyone else. As much as she loved me, she did not know how to keep a secret and would repeat things about me to those around her. It was yet another way she could get attention on herself, by sharing what she knew. Many times however, I would call my “mother-in-love” when I needed to talk. Sometimes my problems were because of my husband. I did not understand him or how he thought or why he would do what I felt were stupid things. Sometimes she would agree with me that he did do something stupid and yet other times she would help me understand his perspective because she knew how he grew up. I always felt safe talking to her about our problems because she never told anyone. Even if we spoke about my husband, she made sure to build me up also and help me understand him because she knew I wasn’t just trying to vent but was instead trying to make my marriage better.

My mother expected phone calls and visits on a regular basis and if I was late, she was sure to remind me of her disapproval and what a bad daughter I was. My “mother-in-love” rejoiced in each call or visit we shared and always made me feel like I’d contacted her at the PERFECT time and that she was so glad that I took time out of our busy lives to share with her.

As I look back on the two women, I realize that although she loved me, my mother damaged my soul. My “mother-in-love” helped to heal it.

I’ve lost both of my mothers now. My mother currently has Alzheimer’s and has a memory span of maybe 2 minutes. Her anger at me has taken over much of our relationship and I rarely call her anymore. This year, the first time in 51 years, she forgot my birthday. While I had been waiting and hoping for the day when she would forget me so I would be free of guilt for not calling her, I did sit down and cry. But I was hit even harder in 2009 when my “mother-in-love” was taken from us after a fairly brief illness. I still struggle with my grief sometimes and think of all the times over the last few years I wished I’d picked up the phone and called her. After she passed away, I spoke to my husband’s oldest sister who was taking care of mom and she told me that mom always loved me and she knew she was loved. She said that although mom could barely speak the last time I called her, she smiled the whole time I spoke to her and that as I told her I loved her, she was nodding her head and understood me.

Lessons are great when you learn them – but the key to learning lessons is to apply them to your life. Now that I’m a mother (and hopefully will be a “mother-in-love” someday, I hope that I will follow the example my husband’s mother set for me.

So as I close this, I’d like to leave you with a thought. I’m sure you’ve had people in your life who have damaged you in some ways and hopefully you’ve had people in your life who have healed those wounds. As you go about your life, whose example are you going to try and follow – and what lessons will your attitude and actions leave behind for others when you pass on?

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Gratitude http://www.edencommunityclubs.com/gratitude/ http://www.edencommunityclubs.com/gratitude/#comments Tue, 18 Oct 2011 17:00:43 +0000 Hot N Sexy TexasMama http://www.edencommunityclubs.com/?p=2447 wallpaper_gratitude_p78de[3]

This Thanksgiving, people all around the world will sit down to dinner with their families and raise their glasses to toast Thanksgiving. Many families go around the table and share all of the good things that have happened in their lives that they are thankful for. Folks will share about their great marriages, the healthy [...]]]>
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This Thanksgiving, people all around the world will sit down to dinner with their families and raise their glasses to toast Thanksgiving. Many families go around the table and share all of the good things that have happened in their lives that they are thankful for. Folks will share about their great marriages, the healthy delivery of a baby or grandbaby and the joy of new relationships with significant others.

As for me, as I prepare our Thanksgiving dinner, I will raise my glass and quietly toast those things for which I’m truly grateful – the hard things in my life. The things no one wants to talk about or acknowledge. Those things we try to forget or sweep under the carpet. Why will I toast these things in my life? Because they have helped to make me who I am and they make me grateful everyday for the good things in my life.

Among the things I toast will be the bankruptcy we went through over 20 years ago. We chose to pay back our creditors instead of having our debts written off, which led to three years of little to live on and ruined credit for many years because we didn’t know how to rebuild our credit. Because of this experience, I try to be more careful of our money.

I toast the years of my infertility and the miscarriage I suffered shortly after giving birth to twins (thanks to the help of fertility drugs). These things make me appreciate the fact that I do have children and that they bring so much to my life.

I raise my glass and celebrate the situation that almost drove our family apart four years ago as our children made some unwise choices. In working through them, I’ve learned to show love and grace instead of judgment and harsh words.

I celebrate the fact that we’re “upside down” in the value of our house and our van and owe more than they’re worth – for that encourages us to work on paying them off even faster.

This year, I will even celebrate the last 32 years of our marriage when our sex life was often famine instead of feast. I would not appreciate the feast of our current sex life (thanks to the Eden community who helped me learn and grow) if we hadn’t gone through those years of famine. Our marriage is now so much richer and our sex life has improved our communication skills and so much more.

I will think of the verses in Romans 8:28 & 29 which talk about how all things “work together for good” for those who love God and how that working together for good is to mold me closer to the image of Christ. I will also remember the words of Friedrich Nietzsche who stated, “That which does not kill us makes us stronger.”

I have so much to be grateful for – not just on Thanksgiving but every day of the year. This year, I will start my thanksgiving by celebrating the bad and ugly things in my life, because they help me recognize the good and beautiful things.

I pray you too have much to be grateful for this holiday season.

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